The Burden of Being a Single Mother and Mairo Mudi’s Empathy
It is heartwarming reading a monograph that paints a photo of the hardship that solitary mothers information with and the social structural malfunctioning in the North occasioned by growing abuse of polygamy.
A 189-webpage e-book, titled Diary of a Northern One Mother wittily composed by Mairo Muhammad Mudi is rather reawakening on how Islamic sanctity of polygamy is getting manipulated by some married men.
It’s sickening and disheartening to see a devoted housewife—once really sought-immediately after angel—being divorced by her spouse to pave way for relationship with any youthful lady. Unfortunately, most of the ladies get divorced, in this instance, right after bearing many little ones for their irresponsible polygamy-30 husbands.
Even some Muslim elites abused polygamy even with the succinct clarification by the holy Quran’s Chapter on The Women of all ages (Q 4:3): “And if you have reason to concern that you could possibly not act equitably in the direction of orphans, then marry from amid (other) ladies such as are lawful to you – (even) two, or 3, or 4: but if you have reason to fear that you might not be capable to address them with equal fairness, then (only) one…”
Devoted Muslim ladies are increasingly turning out to be victims of the fallouts of polygamy as some Muslim adult males erroneously misinterpreted the spiritual injunctions and prophetic wisdoms to abuse the sanctity. Polygamy is only permissible in Islam if the husband has ethical and economic capability to take care of his wives justly. In any other case, a man is to marry only a wife. It’s for this rationale that Islamic scholars like Dr Isa Ali Pantami, the Minister of Interaction and Digital Economy have sought justice for women and advocate sanctions against abuse of polygamy.
The cultural norms and spiritual ethics seem to inhibit women’s inclination to revolt or request a court docket intervention from relationship crisis as Diary of a Northern Solitary Mom narrated: “I grew to become way too submissive to Abdul with out complaining. As a Muslim girl, I am in overall aid of what my lord requested me to do but as a substitute of me getting the paradise that was beneath his toes, Abdul used the similar foot to kick my little ones and me out of his lifestyle. And my family needed me to get married to him again or any person for the sake of status”.
Though Diary of a Northern Single Mother is a well plotted expose` about the burdens of remaining a single mother in the North, divorce is not the only trigger of solitary parenting amongst women of all ages as elements these as premarital childbearing, demise of husbands amid others add. Solitary parenting, though a world wide phenomenon, is a social ailment offered its negative repercussions on the financial and social status of the influenced women and little ones in Nigeria.
The increase in solitary mother family members in the North is probable to contribute to poverty fee between women especially with lack of public social services to aid these people, as shown by Diary of a Northern Single Mother. Studies have proven that youngsters from one mom families are additional most likely to have poor health status, be malnourished, fall out of faculty and inadequate life attainment.
For that reason, Mudi’s Diary of a Northern One Mom lends voice to the calls for corrective steps towards abuse of polygamy with a perspective to curtailing high fee of divorce among Hausa-Fulani—a predominantly Muslim team of the Northern Nigeria—if social enhancement is to be realized.
Diary of a Northern Single Mom attests that Mairo Muhammad Mudi, a Northern Muslim lady, writes with guts on the Northern ideals and socioeconomic issues influencing ladies, youngsters and the vulnerable class. She has also authored Tun Ran Gini, When The Wall Cracks, The Dropped Route, Sins Of The Mothers and fathers, Allow Me Reside: A Cry Of A Child, Women of all ages Empowerment In Nearby Governments, Pot Of Soup, Sarkakkiya and Love Challenging.
Mairo Muhammad Mudi, a married lady with little ones, is the publisher of Adon Gari, Yar Gata and Zuma Moments Hausa and English.
Title: Diary of a Northern Single Mom
Author: Mairo Muhammad Mudi
Publishing Corporation: Gidan Dabino Publishers, No. 570 Sabontiti Dandago Kano
ISBN: 978-56913-2-2
Yr of publication: 2020
Number of pages: 189